I feel my friend wants to change me. What do you think?

My friend always seems to list my flaws and tell me how they hurt her feelings or etc. But then turns around and says how she loves me for who I am. How can she if she always points out my flaws or things that makes me, me and wants to change them? I'm at the end of my ropes and really thinking about my ending my friendship with her. Because she isn't perfect but I love her anyways. I wish she'd improve on a few things herself. She even went as far as telling me in a conversation about her grandkids, then I was a jealous person and that's why I understand where they are coming from. And that she hates that I'm affectionate that it drives her nuts. But I hate that isn't open about how she feels about me and I don't tell her that. What should I do?